são pequenos animais
que vivem nos roupeiros
e que
durante a noite
apertam a roupa das pessoas.
Whatever makes us Happy!

Changing how we talk to ourselves is the easiest and most powerful way to overcome procrastination. No other method that I know of disarms procrastination so rapidly and at such a fundamental level: that of our own thoughts.
We’re talking to ourselves all the time inside our minds. Even when you’re not paying attention, these relentless mental debates deeply influence our feelings and, ultimately, our behavior.
The good news is that just becoming aware of such mental dialogues — noticing patterns and turning them into productive statements — is usually all you need to overcome many unwelcome feelings and behaviors.
Let’s see how this can help us when it comes to procrastination.
Consider the following thought, which for sure has crossed our minds many times in the past:
“I have to finish this long, important project. It should already be done by now and I need to plow through it.”
Now, tell me you don’t have this thought sometimes. For me, no other passage embodies our procrastinator’s mind so well: as we’ll see, this small, seemingly innocent thought contains almost every mental block that encourages procrastination. That’s why I like to call it the Procrastinator’s Motto.
We all use the Procrastinator’s Motto (or variations of it) every once in a while. If you’re a chronic procrastinator, chances are you repeat it to yourself very frequently — daily, perhaps.
But what’s so wrong about the Procrastinator’s Motto? In what ways do these words encourage procrastination so much — and what can we do about it?
To understand what’s wrong with the Procrastinator’s Motto, let’s break it down in parts:
“(1) I have to (2) finish this (3) long, (4) important project. (5) It should already be done by now and (6) I need to plow through it.”
Now let’s consider each of these six parts in turn, replacing each of them with an empowering alternative. In doing that, we’ll turn the original motto on its head and create a productive call to action: a “Producer’s Motto”, if you like.
‘I have to’ is every procrastinator’s favorite expression. It’s also the most disempowering.
Every time you say to yourself that you have to do something, you imply that you don’t have any choice. This choice of words implies that you feel forced or coerced to do the task — that you don’t really want to do it. That perception, of course, elicits a strong feeling of victimhood and resistance towards doing the task.
The solution to this problem is to replace ‘I have to’ with the immensely more empowering alternative ‘I choose to’.
Everything you do is ultimately a choice (yes, even completing tax forms). Using language that expresses choice reminds you of that and brings the feeling of power back.
For an in-depth exploration about the ‘I have to’ expression, check this early article dedicated entirely to this matter.
When you focus on finishing something, you direct your attention to a vague, highly idealized future. Visualizing a finished project is motivating for many people, but from the point of view of who’s having a hard time starting a task, visualizing a hard-to-grasp future can be overwhelming — even depressing at times.
The solution in this case, then, is not to focus on finishing, but on starting.
Forget for a minute about the finish line, just concentrate on taking the first step. Bring your focus from the future to what can be done right now. We all know that if you start something a large enough number of times, you’ll eventually finish any task.
Starting — all by itself — is usually sufficient to build enough momentum to keep the ball rolling from then on. This is what Mark Forster calls the “I’ll just get the file out” technique, and it definitely works.
Constantly reminding yourself how long and challenging the upcoming undertaking is only adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed, and thus of procrastination.
Any undertaking, no matter how daunting, can be broken down into small steps. The trick is to, on each step along the way, focus solely on the very next smallest, doable chunk of work. Ignore the big picture for a while and just tackle that next short task.
Make it in a way you can easily visualize the outcome coming about very soon. Don’t write a book; write a page. If it still looks intimidating, you may try committing to a time box instead.
Of course, keep the big picture in mind, but use it for motivation and direction as needed, and not to frighten yourself before action.
“This project has to impress everyone; I really can’t blow this opportunity.”
Placing such high hopes on a project only adds to anxiety and fear of failure. Perfectionism arises and only fuels procrastination even more.
The way to overcome this mental block is to simply give yourself permission to be human. Allow yourself to be imperfect just in this next small task.
Focus on giving an imperfect step; remember that you can always refine your work later. Better yet, make it in a way that you can’t possibly fail.
If you’re a serial perfectionist, go one step further and commit yourself to make a sloppy job on purpose, at least at first.
The expression ‘should‘ is usually associated with blame and guilt. When you say you should be doing something (instead of what you’re actually doing), you focus on comparing an ideal reality with your current, “bad” reality. You focus not on what is, but on what could have been. Misused ‘shoulds‘ can elicit a strong message of failure, depression and regret.
The solution is to focus not on how bad you feel now, but on how good you’ll feel after you take action. Yes, directed action — even the tiniest of it — towards a goal is the best motivator I know of. The trick is to bring that expected feeling of accomplishment into the present — and know that the real joy of it is only a small task away.
“I’ve got to work all weekend”. “I am trapped in this laborious project”.
Long periods of isolation can bring an enormous feeling of resentment. This feeling generates a strong sense of deprivation and resistance towards the task.
The way to overcome this mental block is to not allow long stretches of work to creep in your activities. Schedule frequent breaks. Plan small rewards along the way. Have something to look forward to — not far away at the end of a long stretch — but in the very near feature. When rewards are small, frequent — and deserved — they work wonders.
Truly commit to leisure time. In fact, go ahead and make it mandatory. This “reverse-psychology” can by itself bring you to a whole different mindset, both more productive and enjoyable.
Time to check what we’ve accomplished with all the word substitutions. We started with:
“I have to finish this long, important project. It should already be done by now and I need to plow through it.”
And ended up with:
“I choose to start this task with a small, imperfect step. I’ll feel terrific and have plenty of time for play!”
Quite a change, eh?
Every time you catch yourself repeating the Procrastinator’s Motto or any of its parts to yourself, stop and rephrase it. Then check how you feel.
While it may seem just a matter of word choices at first, when you try this simple way to reframe your thoughts, you’ll see how instantly it changes your attitude towards working on your tasks. Moreover, if you turn it into a habit, you’ll be slowly reprogramming your thoughts, leading to a positive, permanent change in your mindset.
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003

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Desde que os americanos se lembraram de começar a chamar aos pretos 'afro-americanos', com vista a acabar com as raças por via gramatical - isto tem sido um fartote pegado!
As criadas dos anos 70 passaram a 'empregadas domésticas' e preparam-se agora para receber menção de 'auxiliares de apoio doméstico' .
De igual modo, extinguiram-se nas escolas os 'contínuos 'passaram todos a 'auxiliares da acção educativa'.
Os vendedores de medicamentos, com alguma prosápia, tratam-se por 'delegados de informação médica'.
E pelo mesmo processo transmudaram-se os caixeiros-viajantes em 'técnicos de vendas'.
O aborto eufem en izou-se em 'interrupção voluntária da gravidez';
Os gangs étnicos são 'grupos de jovens'
Os operários fizeram-se de repente 'colaboradores';
As fábricas, essas, vistas de dentro são 'unidades produtivas'e vistas da estranja são 'centros de decisão nacionais'.
O analfabetismo desapareceu da crosta portuguesa, cedendo o passo à 'iliteracia' galopante.
Desapareceram dos comboios as 1.ª e 2.ª classes, para não ferir a susceptibilidade social das massas hierarquizadas, mas por imperscrutáveis necessidades de tesouraria continuam a cobrar-se preços distintos nas classes 'Conforto' e 'Turística'.
A Ágata, rainha do pimba, cantava chorosa: «Sou mãe solteira...» ; agora, se quiser acompanhar os novos tempos, deve alterar a letra da pungente melodia: «Tenho uma família monoparental...» - eis o novo verso da cançoneta, se quiser fazer jus à modernidade impante.
Aquietadas pela televisão, já se não vêem por aí aos pinotes crianças irrequietas e «terroristas»; diz-se modernamente que têm um 'comportamento disfuncional hiperactivo'
Do mesmo modo, e para felicidade dos 'encarregados de educação' , os brilhantes programas escolares extinguiram os alunos cábulas; tais estudantes serão, quando muito, 'crianças de desenvolvimento instável'.
Ainda há cegos, infelizmente. Mas como a palavra fosse considerada desagradável e até aviltante, quem não vê é considerado 'invisual'. (O termo é gramaticalmente impróprio, como impróprio seria chamar inauditivos aos surdos - mas o 'politicamente correcto' marimba-se para as regras gramaticais...)
As putas passaram a ser 'senhoras de alterne'.
Para compor o ramalhete e se darem ares, as gentes cultas da praça desbocam-se em 'implementações', 'posturas pró-activas', 'políticas fracturantes' e outros barbarismos da linguagem.
E assim linguajamos o Português, vagueando perdidos entre a «correcção política» e o novo-riquismo linguístico.
Estamos lixados com este 'novo português'; não admira que o pessoal tenha cada vez mais esgotamentos e stress. Já não se diz o que se pensa, tem de se pensar o que se diz de forma 'politicamente correcta'.
E na linha do modernismo linguístico, como se chama uma mulher que tenta destruir a educação em Portugal?
Ministra !
(Não sei quem é o(a) autor(a), mas merece estar aqui!)